In keeping with my IWSG post from last week about finding balance, I realized something about myself. I sometimes beat myself up about the kind of mother I am versus the type of mother I want to be. Especially in the last few months with the recent shift in my focus. What was once 24 hour access to mom has become mom needs time to write as well as be a mom.
The house isn't perfect.
The laundry isn't always done.
I don't take my kids to the park like I used to.
I don't play games with them as much as I'd like.
I could easily list all the things I'm NOT doing, but then I realized something. No matter what I may be doing WRONG, there is one thing I'm doing RIGHT.
I am always here.
When they get home from school, I am here.
When they need a snack, I am here.
When they need help with their homework, I am here.
When they have a meltdown because life is too overwhelming, I am here.
When they need help with a new piano piece, I am here.
If they need encouragement, a hug, a talk, a reminder, a boo-boo kisser, or even a time-out, I am here.
In the end, isn't that all that REALLY matters?
You're definitely a good mother, Kristin. Stop worrying and beating yourself up.
ReplyDeleteI like the photo - what a little sweetie!
Thanks, Fanny! I appreciate that! :)
DeleteIt sounds like you're a good mom. Being there is the most important thing!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Sherry! Very true!
DeleteYou have the right attitude!
ReplyDeleteThanks! Just need to remember that! :)
DeleteThat is all true. It is so hard to look at all we're failing a and forget of all we have done already! I saw you are following my blog bellesbazaar. I enjoy your blog! And I know the girl Lindsay, who does Real Imprints. Love her!
ReplyDeleteHi Heather! Thanks for stopping by!! I don't know Lindsay personally, but she is a good friend of my friend Tasha. We've "connected" through Tasha! :)
DeleteI needed this today Kristen! I am trying my hand at the balancing act and often the scale tips! I have been replaying the "Let it GO" phrase in my head over and over...because those things don't matter. But being there for our kids does!
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely!! You are a great mom, just have a lot on your plate at the moment! :)
DeleteWonderful post! I try hard to balance motherhood and writing too. I only have one child, but sometimes it feels like I have ten. Have a great weekend!
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